It seems like a strange question, doesn't it? Who is living your life? We may be quick to say that I am living my life, but when it comes down to it we push the blame on to others for our actions or lack thereof.
We blame our circumstances, our boss, our marriage mate, the weather, time, we blame anything we can to avoid the responsibility of the way life is for us.
Then, when someone tells us to do something we don't like it, we say things like don't tell me what to do or nobody tells me what to do.
All you have to do is take a look at anything that you consider as failure or incomplete and you will find a whole world of circumstances or things to blame. Circumstances or conditions that told you what to do.
We get a lot of mileage out of those things from our friends and family. They empathize and sympathize with our failures. Not only that, it feeds into their own failures and short comings. It gives them a reason why things didn't work out.
What if we gave all of that up and just accepted life for the way it is and the way it isn't, without the blame or fault. We give up the circumstances that are holding us back.
I don't have the money becomes I will make the money or I will borrow the money. I will get others to invest in my idea and find the money. My bad marriage becomes a marriage, not good or bad. It's just a marriage, the way it is and the way it is not. My marriage mate is not good or bad, they are just my marriage mate and I have a say on how it will be and how it will not be.
Whether you succeed or whether you don't doesn't really matter. What matter is, you are now living your life and the reasons why things are happening or not are clear. It is because you are living your life or you are not!